Hi! This is a great question that many people have today. It is a very important thing to ensure that the person you are trusting is in fact a trustworthy person! There are a few ways that you can ensure that the person you are hoping to be able to trust and grow with is truly trustworthy

First: Has this person ever shown with outside sources (family, friends, public spaces, etc) that they may not be good at holding to what they say they will do? For example if this person says they will pay a tip at a restaurant, did they follow through? Another example could be if a friend of this person told them a secret that they asked not to tell anyone because it was personal, did this person tell others about their friend’s secret? Being able to follow through with what they say they will do is an important part of keeping trust. If they are capable of keeping trust outside of the relationship they have with you, they will be more likely to uphold situations that require your trust as well!

Second: Has this person broken your trust before? Whether it was something small or something larger that may have impacted you in a negative way, this is a good indicator of if this person is trustworthy because they may or may not have a consistent track record of proving to be trustworthy, or the alternative.

Third: Has this person made themselves accountable if they have broken your trust or someone else’s before? If this person has not proven themselves to be accountable when trust is broken whether it is big or small, they may not be a very trustworthy person. For example if they broke trust and they blamed someone else, or denied the action altogether it may not be suitable to trust them with bigger things in the future. If this person is able to be held accountable for their behavior that has broken trust and has consistently proved with smaller things that they can be trusted, it may be suitable to say that they may have learned to be trustworthy.

Ultimately, it is determined by a persons track record and how well they can be accountable with decisions that may not have lined up with trustworthiness. It is completely up to you to decide if a person is trustworthy based off of their actions. Sometimes people will claim to be trustworthy, or speak in a way that seems that way, but ultimately it is proved by their consistent actions and not just what they say.

I hope that this response is helpful to you in deciding the trustworthiness of others! If you have any other questions or concerns, feel free to visit my page and request a call. Have a great day!

First I’d like to say that it is commendable for you to reach out in regard to respect in your relationship! Of course both parties need to feel respected and appreciated for a relationship to be strong. Open communication is very important for both parties in a relationship to feel respected, as both people need to feel comfortable in expressing their concerns. If you feel like you are not respected in the relationship, first try using “I” statements to express how you are feeling instead of directing it towards your partner. When you use “I” statements instead of “You” statements, it gives more insight to how you are feeling without the other person feeling attacked.

For example, explaining your feelings like “I feel disrespected because __ and I’d like to know how you are feeling and what can be done to fix this for both of us” gives an opportunity for your partner to explain their side and open up communication in regards to how you are feeling disrespected. Try not to ever use “always” or “never” statements in explaining yourself, because this puts the blame on your partner. Give specific insight on how you feel disrespected without blaming your partner, and this should lead to open communication instead of a fight.

I hope this helps you and if you have any further questions, feel free to check out my page where you can call me for any other concerns!